Assessment

How Close Are You to Your Happier Life?

Every day, we experience life through two invisible lenses that separate how we see the world and what we expect from it. Sometimes, our expectations match reality perfectly. Other times, they’re a little blurry or distorted.

Using a simple concept from optics, Dr. Simin Cai invites you to think about your life in three spaces:

Object Space: The reality of what is.
Image Space: The way you perceive reality.
Self Space: The inner lens shaped by our opinions and emotions.

When these spaces align, happiness feels natural and sustainable. When they don’t, frustration can creep in.

Please take this five-minute assessment, and I’ll email you some insights based on your responses. Take a moment to reflect honestly and see how close you are to your happier life.

Complete the following questions with the answers that most closely reflect your current situation. Approach all 10 questions with honesty, and remember, there are no wrong answers.

Step 1 of 11

1. My life matches the expectations I’ve set.(Required)

Very little surprises or upsets me.

Sometimes I’m caught off guard, but I can handle it.

I take things one day at a time.

Life’s changes often rattle me.

I worry about the future.

2. My friends think I have a happy life.(Required)

They tell me I’m one of the happiest people they know.

They often comment on my positive outlook.

They think I’m doing okay.

They sometimes wonder if I’m really happy.

They worry that I’m not living the life I deserve.

3. I work intentionally toward greater happiness.(Required)

I regularly reflect on how to live a happier life.

I notice when I feel off track and adjust.

I think about happiness when things get tough.

I sometimes feel stuck without knowing how to change.

I rarely think I have control over my happiness.

4. My choices, not outside pressures, influence my happiness.(Required)

I define happiness for myself, no matter what others think.

I mostly set my standards for happiness.

I go back and forth between my view and what society expects.

I often feel shaped by what others expect from me.

I feel like happiness is mainly decided by society or luck.

5. My mood depends on the emotions of the people around me.(Required)

No, I stay grounded even when others around me are struggling.

No, I can usually remain steady, but it takes effort.

Sometimes, I mirror the moods of people near me.

I often absorb the emotions of those around me.

I find it hard to stay happy when others aren't.

6. I know how to manage my emotions when I feel unhappy.(Required)

I have tools and habits that help me bounce back.

I usually know how to shift my mood.

I sometimes figure it out, but not always.

I often feel stuck when I’m unhappy.

I don’t know how to get out of a bad place once I’m in it.

7. I have a system to keep unhappiness from taking over.(Required)

I consistently apply my system when challenges arise.

I usually rely on habits that keep me steady.

I sometimes use strategies, but often react on instinct.

I rarely know what to do when I’m upset.

I feel like I have no system to manage unhappiness.

8. I accept stress as part of life and prepare for it.(Required)

I anticipate challenges and plan ahead.

I usually stay calm and ready when problems come.

I handle stress okay when I see it coming.

I often feel blindsided by stressful events.

I dread challenges and rarely feel ready.

9. I adapt quickly when life doesn’t go according to plan.(Required)

I recover quickly and stay focused on what matters.

I adjust pretty well most of the time.

I struggle a bit, but eventually adapt.

I feel frustrated and stuck when things change.

I have a hard time recovering from unexpected changes.

10. I regularly update my expectations as I learn and grow.(Required)

I often reflect and adjust my goals based on new experiences.

I sometimes tweak my expectations to match reality.

I occasionally reconsider my assumptions.

I resist changing my expectations, even when things change.

I hold onto my original expectations, even when they no longer fit.

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